Chapter 4: His Sexuality

1. Do you feel your sexual relationship with your husband is good, not good, or somewhere in between? Why? Regardless of what it is now, write a prayer asking God's covering over it and blessing on it.

2. How would you like to see your sexual relationship with your husband change? Explain. Write a prayers asking God to make it what you want it to be.

3.List the top 10 priorities in your life. These are the things that occupy your time, attention, and energy, such as children, work, friends, church activities and so on. In this list, where does your relationship with your husband fall? What does this list reveal to you about your priorities?

4. If your husband is at the top of your priority list under God )where he should be) , is the sexual aspect of that relationship a priority? If it hasn't been, what are the reasons for that )illness, marital strife, financial worry, emotional stress, lack of interest, busy schedule, children, exhaustion and so on)? Write a prayer asking God to help you make any changes necessary in order to make your sexual relationship with your husband the priority it should be.

5. Do you look forward to intimate times with your husband? Has your husband done anything that has turned you off to his physical advances? Explain. What do you believe would improve your physical relationship?

6. Read 1 Corinthians 7:4,5 in your Bible and underline it. Are you sexually available for your husband at his request? Is he available for you? Does the frequency of sex between the two of you usually depend solely upon him? Upon you? Is the frequency with which you come together mutually agreed upon? Have you ever kept yourself from being available to him, when you could have done otherwise? Write a prayer asking God to help both of you in complete unity about this aspect of your relationship. Confess any times you kept yourself from your husband when you could have done otherwise.

7. Do you ever sense frustration in your husband over your sexual relationship? What do you understand his frustration to be? What could you do to help alleviate that frustration? Write a prayer asking God to give you revelation about that and help you to do what is necessary to make your sexual relationship with your husband better.

8. Has your husband ever been tempted toward infidelity? Have you? Has that temptation ever been acted upon? If yes, how has this affected the way you relate to each other? If no, how do you keep yourselves from temptation? Write a prayer asking God to protect both of you from immorality.

9. Do  you keep yourself sexually attractive to your husband? Do you try to stay healthy, fit, clean, fragrant, attractively attired and rested? Is there anything you could do to improve yourself physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually? Write a prayer asking God to bless you with an inner an outer attractiveness to your husband that keeps him form being attracted to anyone else.